I’m standing in a crowded room, and I’m having a conversation with a young a man, whose future is as bright as the summer sun. I am sharing with him two milestones, which have recently transpired in my own life, when he stops talking and a wide grin fills his face.
Suspicious of that smile, I ask, “What?”
“I’m proud of you. This is a going to be a good year for you,” he answers. My smile mimics his, and I blush. He is honoring me with his words, and it’s more than I deserve.
Several hours later, I’m sitting at the desk where I work, and I’m staring at the pale light emerging from my computer screen. I open a message from a friend I admire, trust and respect. The opening line reads, ”I’m proud of you and your accomplishments.” The words melt across my body, and I welcome them like Aloe Vera on sunburned skin. The simple statement cascades across my shoulders and down my back. Words of Affirmation to spur me on; Words of encouragement for me to remember on a the harder days.
My two friends each decided to love me in the way I most treasure.
LOVE is DECISIVE. As brothers and sisters in Christ, we are called to love one another with a love that is purposeful. The love that we are called to show one another is not based on feelings, but rather an intentional choice to show each other kindness and generosity. We are called to love one another whether we believe the other person is lovable or not.
Because LOVE is DECISIVE and we are called to live and love with a purposeful attitude, the best way to show love is to “speak love” to others in the language they will hear. It’s amazing, as soon as you recognize and implement the language that the people in your life speak, you will see a change in their response. People cannot help but respond to their love language. How awesome is that?
If you have never read, The Five Love Languages, by Gary Chapman, you should start reading it today. Check it out by clicking on this LINK to AMAZON. The book is over 15 years old, but the benefits are timeless. You will discover things about people you already love, and you can begin to talk to them in the language they already speak. If you read the book 15 years ago and you are struggling in a relationship with a spouse, a coworker, or a teenager, read it again. Read it with the intention of loving the unlovable.
“Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.” John 13:34-35